Second Trimester Musings

There are so many things to prepare for when having a baby. I’m not super worried about the physical items. We still have a car seat that works, friends have given me cloth diapers, and clothes, and we still have basic beginner toys. I still have my breast pump and things like that. I think other than the home birth kit, high chair and a couple of nipples to turn canning jars into the few baby bottles I will need, we are all set to go.

No it’s the other things that I have to prepare for that take up my mind.

Preparing my business for being less hands on not only after the baby is born, but for the last month or so while waiting for the baby. I am planning on starting my baby moon when I take off for Christmas/Yule holidays and just going from there since baby is due at the end of January. So asking for help, making strategic plans, thinking about what I want to have available in case I want to do it during this drawing in period.

These are the musings of my pregnant mind.

These are the things I want to focus on as I am in my second trimester (which is so misnamed as it’s the longest of the trimesters and more than 3 months) while I still have a bit more energy than I had in the first or historically I will have in the 3rd.

I am finishing up partially done quilting projects. Because I know there will be a point when leaning forward to use the sewing machine will no longer be comfortable. I try to work on that a little most days.

I am also thinking about the family impact of having a new baby. You never know what personality you are going to get. I also know from experience that the personality of the newborn does not necessarily relate to the toddler or even childhood personality.

I have had newborns that were great sleepers, and ones that were up every two hours, or just didn’t really sleep at all. I have had babes who have hated teething and one that suddenly at just about 4 months had her first tooth erupt.

I don’t know who I am getting. I don’t know how my other four children will feel. I know that regression is normal, but could take 6 months before it shows up and it could be completely sideways. My third born will be a year older than my eldest was when our fourth was born. I will have 3 kids older than I have ever had while introducing a newborn and I don’t know what that will be like.

I know that I will have more ready arms to hold this small one. I should in theory have more opportunities to shower and use the bathroom alone since I will have a 13 and 11 year old who can hold their little sister. They might be better at sharing their feelings with me. Or they might not.

I am not too worried about my hubby. He knows from experience that he will be second fiddle for the first couple of years with a new one, that mum is their most important person. But he also knows he’s the best burper and he loves nothing more than holding a sleeping small one. I know he is looking forward to coming home from work and snuggling our newest one.

There are going to be six new relationships that get to be forged this winter, as we will each have a new relationship with this newest one. Having lots of time at home, just getting to know each other is important. But I know I will also need to talk to other adults, and get breaks and remember what it is like to be more than just a milk machine.

These are the musings of my brain lately. In between trying to figure out what to eat next and when I can next go to sleep or at least shut my eyes for a while. These are the things that pop up in my brain when I am driving or falling asleep.

These are the musings of the second trimester.

PS. Want to read more musings? Take a peep at my Mommy Rebellion Book HERE.