Heather Nieves, founder of I Love Me Yoga, joins us today and speaks about deep self love – the deep connection to the part of us that we lost while focusing on our children.
As a Mom it’s easy to lose ourselves. It’s worth it. Motherhood is the ultimate sacrifice and there is so much beauty in the experience and the lessons offered. However, if we find ourselves unhappy and sucked into this epidemic of self hatred that happens from trying to live up to the cultural ideal as a mom or in the way that week look and it’s causing us suffering then…. Its’ time to slow down and go within. It effects the way we parent and the example that we set for our children.
We hear about self care soooooo much it’s TRENDY. But I am not speaking about manis/pedis/makeup etc. I speak about deep self love. Deep connection to the part of us that we lost while focusing on our children. The part I believe we can reconnect to in a NEW way NOW and not have to wait for them to be all grown up. BE YOUR BEAUTIFUL SELF NOW. To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others, you need to accept yourself. And if we don’t spend time with yourselves how will we create or recreate this relationship to experience this!?!?!
I speak about this in my I Love Me Yoga classes. I shared this quote recently. . . To Love Yourself RIGHT NOW Just as you are is to give yourself HEAVEN. Don’t WAIT until you DIE. If you wait you die now. IF YOU LOVE YOU LIVE NOW – Unknown
Let’s start living more intentionally. Slowing down to pay attention to our inner dialogue. Journaling. Meditation. Yoga. Baths. Long walks alone with our thoughts. Time to reflect and choose differently. How we feel and how we see ourselves. Time to become our own best friends.
I recorded a free Breathe in Love 5 Day Experience recently that I would love to share with you. 3 days of meditation and 2 days of yoga. Some of my favorite mantras/affirmations lately are… It’s OK to take time for ME. IT’s SAFE TO BE ME. I’m a better Mom when I take time for me. It’s ok to ask for help. Boundaries are healthy. It’s ok to say NO.
What are some of your favorite things to say to yourself lately that may help other Mamas reading?
This slowing down due to Covid and staying home has taught me to refocus on what’s important. To make more time for me and in return I am more present with my 5 year old son. He had a epic meltdown at Target recently and while we haven’t had a public display like this in awhile, I was the Mom I aspire to be in those moments. Letting him feel the feelings he needed to. The meltdown was due to saying NO to water balloons that he wanted so bad he even said he wouldn’t ever ask for sugar or toys ever again. However, he just had his birthday and we said YES on the daily to treats and gifts, etc. So this NO was hard. But because I have slowed down to take care of me it has allowed me to be more present with him in these moments. In full transparency, I am not always this calm and composed (yelling at home some days) it felt so good to hold space for him to feel his feelings until we could walk to the car.
Was this blog post helpful? Did it inspire you to slow down and go inward? I hope so! Oprah says on the intro to her podcast that the greatest gift we can give ourselves is time. Time to cultivate a relationship with self and I couldn’t agree more.
With Love,
Heather Nieves
Founder I Love Me Yoga
Women’s Empowerment Coach
Heather Nieves is the Founder of I Love Me Yoga and a Women’s Empowerment Coach living in South Carolina with her husband of 15 years, 5 year old son and shihtzu.
She teaches women to embrace their bodies and live #AuthenticAF through Meditation, Movement & Mirrorwork. Her favorite advice for Moms is “let your breath be your anchor”
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